12.24.2009

THE GIFT OF TIME by Beverly Beckham

You can't wrap some presents in a box. But what if you could? By Beverly Beckham and http://www.grandparents.com/ The letter arrived a few weeks before Christmas, when my children were young. "Give Time to family and friends," it said. "Time is the ideal gift." The letter was referring to Time the magazine, of course, not the real thing. But what if you could give time, I wondered. What if you could wrap it in silver and tie it with a red satin bow and present it to the people you love? Fantasy. Pure conjecture. Yet wonderful to consider. I imagined collecting time, packing years in a box for a daughter then 14, who, when she looked in a mirror, saw all that she thought was wrong with her. Time would give her a peek into the future, of the woman she would become — bright and witty and beautiful. I fantasized about saving time for my son, collecting his boyhood and packing it away so that when he was a man and encumbered by a man’s responsibilities, he would be able to live again those days when life’s biggest problem was where to play baseball. I dreamed of freezing time for my youngest child, stopping the days from marching past, not for her sake but for mine. I didn't want her to ever outgrow my lap. To give time for Christmas. Would that we could. I'd relive this time: "Want to skip school today? Go to the beach?" My older kids say, "No! Are you crazy? It's December. It's too cold for the beach." But the youngest runs upstairs to get her shovel and mittens. We search for sea glass and chase seagulls. "I wish I could fly," she whispers dreamily. "But you might fly away and not come back," I say, hugging her. "No, Mommy," she says, hugging back. "I would never leave you." She did leave me, of course. That's what children do. This child who climbed on my lap has two children now. My son is a 40-year-old man with two children of his own. The then 14-year-old is a beautiful woman with a daughter of her own. And my husband and I are now doting, over-the-moon, let-me-tell-you-about-my-grandchildren grandparents. Give Time, the letter said. My grandchildren are 6 and 5 and 2 and nine months and I think that now, this time, is so perfect that there's no wishing it backward or forward. I'd wrap it in silver and tie it with a red satin bow if I could. To enjoy it now but save it for another Christmas, too. For this is the real gift of time — that it passes, but it also stays. That we can go back. That we never really lose what is gone. My grandson, Brock. 5 mos. Happy Holidays ~ Babs

11.25.2009

GOOD THINGS...IN ABUNDANCE

Thanksgiving, 2003 my Mother surprised our large family with a Circle of Thanksgiving... asking each of us to take a moment and give thanks. I'll never forget the thanks given by each member of my family. It was especially poignant because it was my Mother's last Thanksgiving with us. I miss my mother very much but Thanksgiving is especially difficult...she was the glue of our family and our Thanksgiving meal was a time we all came together for a wonderful day of grace and fellowship (well, most of the time). Her meal would usually feed at least 100. I never fully appreciated all the effort and energy she put into that meal until she was gone. I do now that I try, with great difficulty, to mimic her recipes or those of her mother or sister. I find myself, every year, calling my aunt, cousin and my sister asking "how do I do this and how do I do that", not to count the constant browsing of the internet to figure exactly how to do a special request. Listen up all mothers...write your recipes down today and pass them along to your children. They will be so thankful. I even cornered Ms. Rosa at work, not once, but twice to double check how to do the dressing. Thanksgiving 2003, Mother had each of us give individual thanks. It melted my heart to hear how each family member was thankful for the other and especially heartwarming to hear the gratitude my sons bestowed upon me and how I had impacted their lives. On morning talk show this week I heard a woman say that she was thankful for EVERY SINGLE day she put her feet on the floor and grateful there was a day to celebrate it with pumpkin pie, her favorite! So, as I start my day I will give thanks but for now, I want to express some of the things for which I am grateful. Things that I never want to take for granted...some that make my life a wonderful place, some that simplify my life and some that make my life run more smoothly. For all, I am grateful. 1. My sons, Steven and Sam. Steven, especially for finding Lauren the most beautiful daughter-in-awe and now wonderful new mother to my grandson, Brock...Daddy, is it Game Time, Yet?

Steven, Lauren and Brock. He's in there somewhere. 2. My family "back home." I wish we saw each other more.

3. My faith. It is always with me.

4. My health and the doctors who help me stay healthy. Dr. B., you are the best!

5. Crayolas, colored pens, glue, stickers and paper. I still love to cut, paste, stamp and glue.

6. The sunrise. "May the great mystery make sunrise in your heart." ~ Old Indian Saying Every morning on my way to work it's interesting to see the sun rise. On foggy days like this past week, it plays hide-n-seek with the clouds.

7. A good book and my fireplace. And then the good book that becomes a great movie.

8. The scent of my home and the coziness of my bed. My home is my safe haven.

9. Pink roses, my favorite!

10. Photos that capture so many moments, places, memories AND the friends who take them and share them with me.

11. Computers...and they keep getting cheaper, lighter and faster. Love my new screaming fast HP! Thank you, my HP son, for making the right one arrive here!

12. Mani's and Pedi's...thank you , Jenny.

13. My newly acquired taste for red wine, especially Conconan 2005. It's sooo smooth.

14. Baseball. It's the Sign of Spring.

15. Small mistakes. "Mistakes are a fact of life. It's the response to the error that counts." ~ Nikki Giovanni

16. Online bill pay. Though it is fun to see the little 5x7 envelopes arrive at work.

17. My "binky" for tired shoulders.

18. I'm grateful for Spellcheck...now if I can just master Excel!

19. The smell of new shoes, the look of new shoes, just NEW SHOES!

20. Matinee movies and eating movie popcorn WHEN the movie begins!

21. Chunky peanut butter. Smooth peanut butter. Organic, of course.

22. The smell of a new baby. I Love You Brock... Nana.

23. Falling into bed after a long productive day. "A well-spent day means happy sleep." ~Leonardo Da Vinci

24. Handwritten thank you cards. "Thou that hast given so much to me, give me one thing more, a grateful heart." ~George Herbert

25. My inner peace. "It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness." ~ C H Spurgeon

26. Oatmeal and brown sugar on Sunday mornings.

27. A "smize" from a little brown eyed girl, named Myla, who smiles at you with big beautiful brown eyes that gaze at you, hence; "Smize". At age two she warms your heart with those beautiful eyes and makes you proud with every new word and adventure. Myla's sweet kisses are treasured.

28. My happiness. "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." ~Abraham Lincoln

29. My hairdryer. Whatever did we do without them. Maybe no swimming, PAnn?

30. My dependable, sturdy, reliable Yukon. We've seen so much together.

31. My iPhone. How did I ever function without it?

33. My feelings, my emotions, my heart. "Feelings are much like waves, we can't stop them from coming but we can choose which ones to surf. ~Jonatan Martensson.

34. My friends, near and far though it has taken me many years to learn the value of a good girlfriend...I've got it now and "it's a good thing." My friend, my neighbor...love you, Sharon. And my neighbors on Farmtown, too. It's been fun to reconnect with friends from my past on FaceBook because they have re-entered my present.

35. I'm grateful for headlights in my driveway...it means someone special is here to visit. Black vehicles have extra special meaning...

As I spend my Thanksgiving Day, I will take notice of all the abundance in my life, the good things in my life...the things that make my life run smoothly and how many small miracles happen throughout the day... a baby's laughter, extended families who love each other and create Hallmark moments, laughter and good food. I want to feel that moment of gratitude on Thanksgiving Day for the basic fact that one more time, the sun has risen, it brightens my day and it will hold me tight...safe and warm like a big hug. As Princess Diana said "Hugs are free, you can never have too many."

May All The Good Things In Your Life Be in Abundance! Happy Thanksgiving.

~ BABS

11.08.2009

No Need for a Mask

My first grandchild was born 7.3.09. His name is Brock Layne. At his birth, I had a lot of new feelings...new life, new chapter, what a miracle, but also the feeling of another identity for me. All my friends said I would be "ga-ga" and my whole life would change. I didn't feel that instantly like I thought I was going to. I did look at my son and think: "Way to go. Another home run since baseball has been such a part of our lives for 30 years." Brock is a beautiful baby...so beautiful that women all over the world will look at his long, gorgeous eyelashes and say "what a waste to give them to a guy." He's a handsome little fellow and I'm already in love and quite proud - with a definite turn to ga-ga! Brock Layne 7.3.09 It's a new role for me...this role of Nana. I've always felt my role in my family, usually that of "lead role" since I am the oldest of four children. It's a role that brings about a mask to a large extent. For the people I love and those that pass through my daily life, I've worn a mask for a long time and I'm wondering if the mask can now come off...now that I'm a Nana. Being the oldest of four, I always felt a bit of pressure about being the "good girl", the pleaser, doing the right thing and solving problems. Being a problem solver has helped me so much in my career (well, most of the time) but, unfortunately, on a personal level people really don't want their problems solved...they just want you to listen, be supportive and let them know you care. I'm learning that lesson late in life. This scenario plays out in a work situation, as well as with friends and family. Sometimes I have the mask on so tight and wear it so well noone seems to notice. But deep down, I know I am not free to simply be who I really want to be; hence, frequently I feel invisible. There is nothing inherently wrong with wearing a mask or playing a role. It's a natural part of any social dynamic and it can even be creative and fun. However, it becomes a problem when I feel I have no choice but to wear the mask and it's certainly a challenge if I feel I am without it. Do any of us know who we really are—a special beam of individual light—and have identified ourselves completely with a role. We may be the dutiful, caring daughter who keeps her parents’ dysfunctional marriage intact. We may be the dutiful wife who enables her husband to continue on a destructive path. We may be the cheerful daughter to a deeply depressed mother. Whatever the case, knowing the motivation behind the performance—the function of the mask—can help to cover the true face and identity. In my opinion, anytime we find ourselves behind a mask, it is an indication we are entangled in a dysfunctional dynamic in which our true self cannot be seen. Perhaps we've been placed in this situation for the purpose of our own healing and, in some cases, the healing of others. From this perspective, life can be seen as a series of situations that call us to remove our masks—gently, and with great compassion for all concerned—to reveal the beauty underneath. The role of Nana seems natural and easy for me and I see no need for a mask in my Nana role. Perhaps it is because this little guy expects nothing of his Nana, doesn't know my background of trials and errors and just latches his little finger to mine. As it's been quoted: "The moment they placed you in my arms, you were forever in my heart." Definitely for this precious one...no mask needed!

10.09.2009

CATCH A FALLING LEAF...

I awoke this morning to a rainy, stormy day thinking how glad I was that the changing of the season was blowing through in the early morning hours, rather than midnight with lightning and noise. It's been a long hot summer. Gov. Perry declared a drought disaster in February 2009 in all 254 counties. http://governor.state.tx.us/news/press-release/2515/ The period from May 1, 2009 through June 6, 2009 was the driest in Houston weather history with a paltry 0.65 inches of rain that fell over 57 days. Does .65 in. of rain ever even make it to the ground? No rain, barely a drizzle for my corner of the world, either over the last year. Yards are parched from the 100 degree plus days, absent a drink of water and my roses have never looked worse. After the recent heavy rains, the lawns are confused and the flowers are dazed wondering whether to go dormant or bloom and wait for the cold. I feel that same dazed and confused way some days..I've actually been in a store in San Antonio, run into someone from work (out of town) and wondered: "Which store am I in, where am I?" Dazed and confused is not a state that I like to be in...nope, much to the chagrin of many, I usually have a plan and little room for change. Somehow the trees and flowers know that change is on the way. Routine is the ritual and nourishment for my soul...like the rain and sun Mother Nature provides. Cold- blooded All American Girl that I am, in anticipation of a temperature change and not liking that change at all...I'm a sun-baby, I turned off my air conditioner and no, I didn't open any windows. I was perfectly comfortable at 5 a.m., snug as a bug, as my grandmother would say, at 78 degrees in my house and that didn't bother me a bit. I'm under my comfy, it's raining outside and all is well with the world. Not one to doze back to sleep, I did reflect a few moments to listen to the rain pouring down on the lawns, like a long shower, leaving all the plants happy in their thirst quenched stupor. We had 4-5" of rain the week before so it was definitely a case of "watch what you wish for." There were flash flood warnings on the radio and alerts of more rain to come. Sunrise was upon me and I knew the day would bring about rejuvination and newness and there was definitely a change of plans. Well, rain or shine I knew I had to get to the AT&T store to change out a phone that the Coach ran over at the baseball field...cells phones and riding mowers do not go together well! I like that about new days...Things may change whether I like it or not, and friends may leave, but LiFe doesn't StOp for AnYbOdY! A clean start, a new slate, a new day to color on my canvas, though my days don't change much from day-to-day. Not even on the week-ends. Today I was ready to move ahead, take on the world, tackle my "to do list" as it waited patiently for me on the counter downstairs where I put it to bed every night, not thinking about it until I pick it up when I'm heading out the door. At 5 a.m. week-days, I'm energetic and enthusiastic...if only that energy and enthusiasm would stay with me all day. What a gift that would be. Nope, here comes the rain...scratch the list...new plans. Today is a day where being "rigidly flexible" as I have been described, is a good thing. An Indian Summer Day in South Texas with the sun shining after the rains and back in the 90's wouldn't surprise me a bit. I hope not, for the lawns' sake, the roses and even the trees that will shed their beautiful leaves in preparation for a nice long winter's nap. I frequently ask "why didn't I plant all evergreens", especially as I clean leaves out of the pool. Here you see...roses looking BaD! Flowers ThIrStY! WEEDS, WEEDS, WEEDS! Ugh! Most Thursday afternoons I have the same conversation with my trusty lawn helper that I've had for 13 years: "Why isn't there some device we can use to shake all the leaves off at once and be over with this anyway?" He just laughs and goes on about the business of mowing with music plugged in his ears. No, this morning was a tease...by Mother Nature of the chilly days ahead. Chilly and Beverly...two words that do not go together. Most days you'll find me with a sweater wrapped around my neck. Some people think I'm going for a "look." Wrong...it's for cold stores where I shop, movies and restaurants or on a trip. See Albuquerque in August above...sweater, just in case! A quick over the head goes the sweater and off goes any "look." It's not a look, it's just a little nurturing of my chilly bones to make a quick stop in a cold French cafe a little more cozy when sitting by the fireplace sipping a nice wine. Above: Traveling in the Sonoma Valley, CA., in the Fall at the Sauvignon vineyards with a sweater. A beautiful place to visit. http://www.sonomacounty.com/ The Case Ranch Inn, Forestville, CA. The bed and breakfast with hot tub: www.bedandbreakfast.com/california-forestville-case-ranch-inn Another story, another day about "chilly" in California in the Fall. Yes, Fall is arriving in South Texas. It's the changing of the guard as Summer teasingly slips away, Autumn is at our doorstep and here arrives the Master Artist Himself...with all the brilliant colors He has to brush our world with. I love the colors of Fall, especially orange. I admit I like orange and black since they were my high school colors (I know, I know..."yuk"...but they were ours) but it's in the Fall that the little orange pumpkins arrive in the church parking lots and children wander up and down the rows looking for that perfect pumpkin to carve. In keeping with tradition, I'll pull out my crafty, not real- from- the- pumpkin patch, pumpkins, for the porch, PLUS one more this year for Brock and up goes the Autumn wreath. Thus begins another chapter, another season to watch unfold...wondering...do people mirror the trees I see change? Do people go through their own seasons and change? I know I do... even not liking change... but accepting it as best I can. I've watched the trees I planted over 12 years ago root their way over and around rock, growing tall, cracking rocks and all in their effort to establish their roots and grow, in order to change with the seasons. Aren't we the same? Always searching for creative ways to go over and around the obstacles we hit in our journey of life? CATCH A FALLING LEAF AND MAKE AN AUTUMM WISH...HAPPY AUTUMN, HAPPY FALL, GOOD BYE SUMMER...

8.30.2009

Little Charmer Post Offices

I’m a talk show junkie. I’m addicted and I know it. Those close to me know I prefer to listen to the local, and sometimes not local, talking heads. As pertains to television, I’ve been known to watch the weather channel as opposed to watching favorites as Sopranos or Law and Order. In fact, I’ve never seen one episode of either. The weather is a mystery and the news is all too often, entertainment. Errands are done during the 1-4 p.m. segment of the Dave Ramsey show, http://www.daveramsey.com/ for all his wealth (no pun intended) of knowledge. Bob Webster, a local Master Gardner, is one of my favorite local Saturday morning shows and I’ve been known to disguise my voice as a call- in for advice on my gardening questions. He knows everything from dirt, bugs, plants, vegetables and even pets. Weekly morning drive begins at KTSA with Trey Ware and Brent Boller as my early morning, regular companion station, for two reasons. Trey Ware, with his Morning Edge show, has a firm, but gracious manner of disagreeing, or at least agreeing to disagree, without rudeness or obstinance as he filters through quite a variety of other's opinions. I always learn a new word with Brent’s extensive vocabulary though I resort to scribbling a word down quickly to find meaning in my dictionary when I reach my destination. They are on air 5:30 a.m. – 10:00 a.m., http://www.ktsa.com/ and when I’m headed out for my travels early, the last thing I want is elevator music or rock and roll. No, I’ll take the rock and roll a bit later in the day if music is my mood. I’ve been encouraged to listen to music, as opposed to talk shows, so my day begins “not so intense” or at least in a more relaxed mood. I don’t think a soft edge; relaxed mood will serve me well walking into the daily operations of a multi-specialty medical clinic that cares for many sick and injured folks in the community. No, I need my mind alert and my wits sharp. Listening to friendly bantering on the drive gives me the “need to know what’s going on in the world” feeling combined with the ongoing question of where are we in this crazy world of economics and the incessant question of when will this recession be over and people can begin to relax, enjoy life, take vacations and feel secure in their jobs. When I was a pre-teen, my mother’s brother always appeared, at least to me, to be secure in his job as a U. S. Postmaster in my mother’s hometown of Arcadia, TX. Arcadia, is located along Highway 6 in northwest Galveston County, and was established around 1889 near Hall's Bayou on the Gulf, Colorado and Santa Fe Railway and named for Arcadia, Louisiana. The townsite was laid out by Henry Runge in 1890 and originally named Hall's Station. It included land for a school and a public park. The post office was founded in 1891. Several churches were organized in the 1890s, and in 1892 the White Horse Inn was built to impress prospective land buyers. The site of Arcadia was on Stephen F. Austin's fourth land grant. The area had been occupied by the Coco Indians and explored by Álvar Núñez Cabeza de Vaca. By 1900 Arcadia had a population of 168, and in 1907 its school had eighty-nine pupils and two teachers. The town grew to 300 by 1920. Dairying became the town's largest industry and during the 1920s the Arcadia Creamery was founded, and the Farmer's Cooperative Feed and Grocery Store opened. In 1947 Arcadia had a post office, part of my family, 2 uncles, Lynn and Leon, my aunt, Mary Helen ("my Tis") and my mother, Joyce, the children of my grandparents, Fred and Annie Rush and ten businesses, with a population of 275. By the 1980s Arcadia was within the boundaries of Santa Fe, an incorporated town. My Uncle Leon worked in the town post office that was connected to an old house. It still stands in Arcadia…well, the building is intact but it is now a non-denominational food pantry and resale store. The post office that his daughter, my cousin Chris, remembers was connected to the still standing house. She remembers a husband and wife owned the house and that it was a food and dry goods store. The husband was the postmaster and he added a stucco attachment as the post office. His sister Ms. Maude, as we all called her, ran the store. When he retired his wife became the postmaster for 25 years and my Uncle Leon was the Assistant Postmaster. In 1969, my Uncle Leon became the postmaster having been through the era of mail being delivered by the train hanging the mail bags out for the town post office until 1958 when mail was delivered by trucks. I still remember my Uncle Leon coming across those railroad tracks to his mother's house (our Mama Rush, Annie to some) for lunch, and to chat a bit about what was going on, who he had seen and talked to, gave us all hugs and back to the post office he went. It didn’t seem like it was a stressful job but no doubt he saw many stressful times, especially in 1969, for all Americans. Fast forward to 2009, postal officials have now released a list of nearly 700 post offices in metropolitan areas that are being considered for possible closure or consolidation by the Independent Postal Regulatory Commission. According to the news, some post offices could be closed entirely but others may remain open and provide limited services. At first I did not hear it was in metropolitan areas and began to photograph small town post offices and watch the comings and goings of the folks as they walked in and out of these rather unique buildings. None of the post offices I took photos of are on the closure list but do enjoy the photos and little stories.
Hobson, TX 78117 The sun comes up behind this little post office (more times this summer than we San Antonians would like) on Hwy. 181 and Farm Road 81 near Indian Crossing on the San Antonio River. The post office was established in 1898 and it's population peaked in the early 1950's to 175 but in 1990 the town composed largely of Czech, German and Polish descent reported a population of 135 and it has remained that number to present.
It's the large cities like El Paso, Ft. Worth and Dallas that are targeted for closure with less than 20 in Texas. Travelling my journey every day didn’t stop me from taking a few photos and chatting with folks about their local post office and listening to their stories. As I’m usually asked when taking photos of schools, churches and other buildings, this was no different. “Are you from the newspaper?” I guess there’s something about a woman in a suit carrying a camera that conjures up images of being in the news.
Tuleta, TX 78162
Don't you just love this quaint little post office address, 123 Main, Tuleta, TX. I think it's blue wooden siding and aluminum window coverings should place it in nomination for one of the more "down home" post offices. If there was a coffee shop nearby I can attest that it would stay busy all day long. It took me 15 minutes before the daily flow to pick up the mail slowed enough to get a frontal photo without a car out front. Tuleta is on State Highway 181 twelve miles north of Beeville in north Bee County. It was founded by Peter Unzicker, a Mennonite minister, who brought a colony of Mennonites from Cullom, Illinois, in 1906. Unzicker, a German, purchased 54½ acres of land from the Chittum-Miller ranch for the townsite, which was named for J. M. Chittum's daughter. The San Antonio and Aransas Pass Railway was built across the ranch in 1881. The depot opened in Tuleta in 1906; the following year the post office opened. The Mennonite church, built that year, was used for school on weekdays. In 1910 Amanda Stoltzfus organized the Tuleta Agriculture High School, the first of its kind in Texas; its faculty came from such prestigious institutions as Smith College and the University of Wisconsin. Mrs. Stoltzfus, the principal, offered instruction in sewing and cooking for girls and manual training and agriculture for boys. The school had dormitories for boarders. Tuleta once had three churches-Mennonite, Presbyterian, and Baptist-of which only the Baptist remained in 1990. Among the early businesses were Stoltzfus Mercantile Company and Gin, Unzicker Grocery and Grist Mill, Dirks Brothers Lumber Yard and Garage, Speer's Coffee Shop, the Rapp Hotel, and the Hall Hotel. Oil and gas were discovered west of Tuleta in 1929, when the population was 150. Several oil companies were still in operation in 1990, as were a grocery store, a water well service, and a community center. In 1989 its population was 189. In 1990 it was ninety-eight. The population reached 292 in 2000.
Edna, TX 77597 I travel from Beeville, TX to Angleton, TX occasionally and pass this more modern, brick and mortar post office. It hasn't always been quite this styled but has a colorful history. Edna is located on Hwy. 59, otherwise known as The Houston Hwy. Edna is exactly 100 miles (160 km) south-west of Houston, Texas and 120 miles (190 km) north-east of Corpus Christi, Texas. Edna, the county seat of Jackson County, was established in 1882 when the New York, Texas and Mexican Railway line was built from Rosenberg to Victoria and bypassed Texana, Texas then the county seat. Construction of the railroad began in September 1881. Edna was laid out on land owned by Mrs. Lucy Flournoy, who conveyed right-of-way and a half interest in the townsite to the railroad, which was promoted and built by Italian Count Joseph Telfener. The town was named for a daughter of the count. The NYT&M, nicknamed the "Macaroni," was constructed by Italian laborers, most of whom were brought from Lombardy by Telfener. After completion of the road, the majority of the crew remained in the area and established homes. The first train arrived on July 4, 1882; the first merchant was Gideon Egg, who moved his general merchandise store from Texana in 1882, and the first child born in the new community was Edna Louise Traylor. In an election of January 22, 1883, residents voted to make Edna the county seat in place of Texana. The contract for a new courthouse was awarded on February 11, 1884. A post office opened in 1886.
Normanna, TX. 78142
As the story goes, the history of Normanna can be told in a pecan shell. The area had been a Mexican land grant back in 1831. In 1874 it was named Walton Station after Sheriff D.A.T. Walton. Norwegian immigrants moved into the area in 1893, and formed the nucleus of their colony just 2 miles from Walton. When the postal authorities rejected the application for a post office under the name Walton, Normanna was submitted and accepted.The name loosely translates as "the place of Norsemen" but closer to the true meaning is "far North." Seeing that's where they were from, the name was appropriate. Families descended from the original Norwegian settlers still live in the area. Normanna has a museum in a building that has served as ranch headquarters, a hotel and a residence.
Pettus, TX 78146
Pettus is at the junction of U.S. Highway 181 and Farm Road 623, fourteen miles north of Beeville in northern Bee County. It was called Dry Medio from its first settlement in the 1850s until the Civil War, when it came to be called Pettus City in honor of John F. Pettus, one of the most prominent of the area's early settlers. In 1886 J. S. Hodges sold a right-of-way to the San Antonio and Aransas Pass Railway and donated local streets. By 1914 the town had a reported population of 250 and five general stores, Baptist and Christian churches, a cotton gin, a blacksmith, a lumberyard, and a physician. Oil was discovered near the town in 1929, and in 1933 Pettus reported 300 residents and eighteen businesses. In 1990 it had an estimated population of 400 and thirteen businesses. The population grew to 608 by 2000. This is a friendly little post office located across from the very local Dairy Queen and everyone that walks in seems to know everyone that walks out. At least thats my observation from waiting a bit to take a photo absent of any cars! A little trivia for Fancy Nancy of Pettus, TX. There are 6 more males than females in the fair town of Pettus, TX.
BERCLAIR, TX 78107
I caught this little blue and white charmer on my way to Angleton last month with a 90 year old out front...and he was not hesitant to let me know his age. As usual, he wanted to know if I was with the newspaper. Nope, didn't even look large enough to me to have a newspaper. But when I told him I was collecting photos of small South Texas post offices, he wanted to be in the photo. Well, I declined telling him that "no one person is going to be in the photos...just the buildings." Nothing doing, he wanted to take a photo of me since I was the brightest thing to come along to Berclair in a "spell", he said. Here I am wondering where the nearest sheriff is "just in case." Actually, if I didn't make it to Angleton by 8:00 a.m. on the scheduled morning, I think the crew of Dawn, Carole, Cheryl and Mary Helen, led by Jammie, would be out on the highway tracking me down! Now, a little about Berclair, TX.
Berclair, is on U.S. Highway 59 sixteen miles from Goliad in southwestern Goliad County, was established as a shipping point on the Gulf, Western Texas and Pacific rail line to serve an already well-populated ranching area. On December 10, 1889, Joseph Blackburn paid the railroad company $100 as a bonus for building through Goliad County and donated right-of-way through the southern corner of his ranch. A post office was established in 1889, along with a depot and stock pens. A hotel built at the site in 1887 to board the railroad workers later accommodated passengers from the daily train between Victoria and Beeville. In 1892 Berclair had a steam cotton gin, a saloon, a weekly newspaper called the Blossom, and eighteen other businesses serving an estimated 200 residents. For a while the Baptist church building was used by other Protestant groups, but by 1914 Methodist and Catholic churches had been built. The population and number of businesses declined in the early twentieth century; the saloon was closed by local law in 1910. Ah, so there is local law enforcement...maybe I should do police stations or sheriff's offices, next. And so the story goes...by the 1920s, however, about 300 people were living in Berclair, which had twenty businesses and was designated a banking town in 1929 and 1931. The number of businesses began to dwindle; the population remained stable for a while at 350, until the 1970 census recorded a decline to sixty-one residents and two businesses. Berclair was named either by the railroad surveyor after his home in Virginia or after the given names of Bert and Clair Lucas, owners of a nearby ranch. In the mid-1980s the settlement still supplied surrounding ranches. In 1986 the post office served sixty-one residents. In 1990 the population was seventy. In 2000 the population grew to 253.
Falls City, TX 78113 ...Need to check out the natural falls...thought that was made up!
Falls City is a mile southeast of the Wilson county line and seven miles northwest of Karnes City in northern Karnes County and owes its development to the railroad. Two earlier communities, Marcelina and Home Valley, had been located in the vicinity in the 1850s and 1860s, but people were not induced to settle the area until 1886, when the San Antonio and Aransas Pass Railway built a switch and depot called Brackenridge, named after railroad benefactor George W. Brackenridge.qv To provide postal service for the settlement that developed, the post office of Skiles was established a mile west of the depot in 1887. On November 28, 1893, it was moved closer to the tracks on the east side of the river, where it was consolidated with Brackenridge and renamed Falls City, after several nearby natural waterfalls. On June 25, 1893, a train robbery at Brackenridge resulted in the only hanging at Karnes City, the new county seat. In 1895 Falls City had one general store, a post office, two saloons, a lumberyard, a hotel, a depot, two livery stables, and a steam mill and gin. The principal place of business was the Schulz Mercantile Company, which operated in a large brick building until it burned down in 1935. The site was later occupied by the Falls City National Bank. A number of people from Panna Maria and Cestohowa moved to Falls City, where they could receive the benefits of a railroad. As a result Falls City became a predominantly Polish-American settlement. In 1902 Holy Trinity Catholic Church was erected; a parish school opened in 1911. In 1924 the Columbian Hall was built for the Knights of Columbus; it was replaced by the Falls City Community Hall in 1983. In 1931 a new Catholic school, built for $4,000, enrolled 100 students. In 1938 a public school was built, and a high school was added in 1950. Polish-American farmers east and west of the town did most of their trading at Falls City, which incorporated on September 28, 1946. The discovery of oil helped the town to grow. After the discovery of uranium in 1958 near Tordilla Hill, ten miles west of Falls City, uranium mining and milling developed. In the mid-1970s the town was seriously divided over the uranium mines, which were said to contaminate the land and water. Businessmen wanted the mines to continue operation, but farmers did not. The conflict continued in the 1990s. By 1993 the uranium activity, except for a multimillion-dollar reclamation project by federal authorities, was all but over. In 1993 Falls City had a mayor-council form of government and a population of 478. In 2000 the population was 591.
As to the recession and its impact on my postal box and contents, the only change I see at my local station is that every few years the delivery to boxes goes up by 30 minutes. When I first switched to a P. O. Box, the sign said "all mail will be up by 8:30 a.m." I believe the scheduled deadline is now 10:30. So it's longer for the mail to go up, maybe not quite as much junk mail but still my fair share of brightly colored fliers and a few coupon packets stuffed in the box for me to sort through before leaving the post office. Many times I’ve wondered why they don’t put shredders in the lobby instead of overflowing trash cans. Probably afraid someone will get hurt or the shredder will take legs and walk. While I still receive the junk stuff, there has definitely been a decline, in my opinion. I suppose the the rise in shipping costs (higher gas prices) that junk mail is at least, partially, on the downhill slide. I still get the Victoria’s Secret catalog and L.L. Bean but I honestly don’t know why because I’ve never ordered from them. Other businesses that are still doing junk mail are no doubt reducing the size of their catalogs and we’ve certainly seen the reduction in the size of newspapers. I think those are definitely signs of struggles but the positive is we have less paper wasted, less trips to the recycle bucket to be lugged to the street and back in again every week. Unfortunately, these reductions and cutbacks results in a struggling United States Postal Service. It has raised its rates again but it still made $200 million less from junk mail than it did in 2007 and there’s no doubt it will be harder hit in 2009. The reprieve from overstuffed mailboxes will probably end as the economy revives. Marketers say catalogs, pamphlets, and flyers remain among the cheapest, most effective ways to pitch products and draw new shoppers to stores. Personally, I like to order off the internet and have it delivered to my door and receive a real card or letter in my mailbox. There’s nothing more personal than a handwritten note from family or friends and if I’m lucky a little something inside, like a photo, to treasure and make my day. Hoping you receive Good News in your mailbox and that you've had a Safe and Happy Labor Day, September, 2009.

7.20.2009

BOOK OF LIFE

Though I try not to look back, but rather stay focused looking forward, when I do reflect, I look at my life in “Chapters.” Child Chapter, Teen Chapter and from Teen Chapter straight on to Marriage Chapter…bookmarked for about 6 years then on to Parent Chapter. It took one look for me and I knew that once I was a parent, it would be a forever chapter in my life. My identity was quickly wrapped around being a Mom, the best Mom I could be, and it was a role that suited me with pride and pleasure, far beyond my expectations. Perhaps I thought Parent Chapter would remain static but Parent Chapter, Part I First son, Steven, was followed 22 months later with Parent Chapter Part II, Second son, Samuel.
SAMUEL JOSEPH SEBESTA, SON TWO
I knew these chapters were going to be good long “reads.” As soon as First son completed a phase, he quickly moved on to his next phase with Second son right behind him moving through his new phase. So, while I remained in the same Chapter, my parental role continued to evolve and transition into subchapters. My feelings about these transitions of the boys, inching their way toward independence, would occasionally bring temporary bouts of feelings of loss and a sense of emptiness, a feeling that is ongoing but intermittent with great moments of love, awe, joy and pride, sprinkled with a lot of love. I am proud of their achievements from their first baby steps, to the first day of kindergarten, to the start of college, but off and on I have these feelings of closed chapters and chapters I selfishly want to bookmark. Looking back, I knew that dwelling on these feelings was not a positive reaction to their growth and accomplishment but even when friends would console me, I had the feelings all the same. But as happens to all of us, life throws out the curve balls …divorce, death of loved ones, disappointments, career changes or moving to a new city…thus beginning more subchapters. Throughout the chapters there were times when I felt free because I would see the boys gaining their much strived for independence and celebrate those moments of independence but those times and feelings of celebration were combined with “they don’t need me anymore” feelings. It had become customary for me to be the person to be viewed as the one that could fix anything and to be needed but I would get lost in these chapters not realizing that I was losing my own identity. Keeping a mirror on my own identity, without wrapping it around another person, or a career, has been a struggle and continues…an individual work in progress.
THE THREE OF US, SAM, BEVERLY & STEVEN
There was just the three of us for so many years that when the nest emptied, with my boys graduating from college, I had to work extra hard not to inject my life into their newly created lives…their independent and individual lives… after all, that was the very thing I strived for and worked to give them. I wanted each to have a life that was not mine to live and certainly not to control. On a road trip recently and feeling a might sorry for myself because there was the feeling of “nobody needs me” was playing over and over in my mind, I realized that my wanting to make decisions and “control” was an indication that I didn’t trust them with their own decisions. It was a moment that began (didn’t resolve it totally) to be a turning point in all this “loss” feeling. I know I helped them to learn to make decisions and live with their decisions…why did I feel the need to hang on to their lives or try to control their lives. I don’t…it’s that simple. All the same, I occasionally find myself not feeling needed and then just as soon as that feeling passes, a new chapter has inked itself right into my Life Book…Advisor chapter. This chapter, the Advisor, where I no longer find myself as a guidance counselor/disciplarian but more of an Advisor/Friend has actually been a freeing experience with a new beginning...a beautiful New Beginning straight from Heaven.
BROCK LAYNE SEBESTA 7.3.09
A new Chapter added to my Life Book and who created a New Book came into our lives on July 3, 2009 at 6:25 a.m., weighing 7 lbs., 1 oz., 19” L.
First son and my lovely daughter-in-awe have been blessed with this gift from God.
STEVEN & LAUREN SEBESTA, new parents.
This little bundle from heaven, Brock Layne, was named after his Dad, Steven Layne, who was named after his Dad, Terrell Layne. A New Book of chapters begins for these new parents and My Book with all it's chapters continues... with many subchapters that I find I can’t wait to turn the pages and enjoy. As a new Nana, (Nana, as in “Nana Banana” as my cousin coined me affectionately) I am learning quickly (though it wasn’t immediate) our children need us all along the way but at different times and in a different ways. I plan to embrace this new chapter and look forward to more new chapters where we three, plus two, will have deeper and more mature relationships for years to come. What a great read. I’m not putting this book down but every now and again and then only for a hug or two.
Love,
Babs, now known as Nana

5.09.2009

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY

Today is a bittersweet day. It’s the birthday of my little sister, Janell, my “Janellie” as I affectionally call her, and the 5th anniversary of my Mom’s passing. My Mom, Joyce Rush Bishop, ( 8.27.33 – 5.09.04) passed away on Mother’s Day, Janellie's birthday, May 9, 2004, late on Sunday evening. My mom and me...she had all the Indian features...me, not so many. That Mother's Day, like so many before, she was surrounded by friends and family that loved her, including my two sons, but I was in LaGrande, Oregon… way in the mountains on business. Her first born, independent and far from home chasing a dream…but that’s how she wanted me…believing I could do anything I dreamed. When I left her that week in the hospital, I flew to Oregon believing she was going to surgery, would be fine and out of pain when I returned. But neither my beliefs, nor her talented surgeons, could fix her broken heart. It was Mom’s time to be with her Lord and Saviour. At her services 5 days later, I told all her friends and family what a "worry wart" she was. They chuckled because they knew. I told them she didn't think anybody would be there that day... and as I looked around at standing room only, with the room filled with beautiful flowers, I read this poem for her:
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free I'm following the path God laid for me. I took His hand when I heard him call; I turned my back and left it all. I could not stay another day, To laugh, to love, to work or play. Tasks left undone must stay that way; I’ve found my place at the close of day. If my parting has left a void, Then fill it with remembered joy. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss; Yes, these things, I too will miss. Be not burdened with times of sorrow For I wish sunshine for your tomorrow. My life's been full and blessed with much; Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch. Perhaps my time seems all to brief; Don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your heart and share with me, God wanted me now, He set me free. Mom is probably still smiling knowing her family and friends “showed up” and I smile because she touched so many lives, mine included. For my sisters, my brother, me and our families, it was a life changing event. Our lives have never been the same and I’m a continuing work of change. Letting go has been one of my biggest challenges but I'm determined to get it right and live every day like those days when she was here helping to push me forward with words of encouragement and never missing a time to tell me that she loved me. My family is a big "I love you family." I never want to miss an opportunity to let those I love not hear those words...it was deeply planted in my heart by my family and in leading by example, I will not change that tradition of letting those I care about know that no matter what changes...the love endures. When I called to wish Janellie a happy day, we chatted about everything and said our "I love you's." Mom would be happy.
Maybe we are finally moving forward and making changes that needed to be made. We will never forget our Mom and all the memories, but God Bless her, if we don’t change and let go, how do we go forward with the new things that are right here in front of us? Janellie has a new grandson, Rex, a sweet fellow, Kevin, who makes her smile and laugh A LOT. I have two healthy, happy and successful sons...here's Sam and me
Steven...my oldest and about to be New Dad.
a beautiful daughter-in-awe, Lauren (on the right) here with her best friend Tyler, who just helped give her a beautiful baby shower for my grandson about to make his debut 7.4.09
gee, I hope he likes baseball….so many things to smile about there are too many to name. Perhaps Janellie and I have grown up, matured, and are beginning to let go and make room for these new chapters in our lives. Changing and letting go has been a slow process and I have been known to be “in time out” from friends and family, but it’s because I don’t want to be held hostage by my past…clinging to it like a child behind his mother’s apron. When I go into “time out” it’s usually from a relationship that didn’t work out, or a disappointment I feel I’ve caused, but…I do this little chant to try to bring me back to the moment: It’s good to be merry and wise, It’s good to be honest and true, but it’s best to be off with the old, before you’re on with the new. Just one of my little “isms” I live by. How can I go forward in life with all the good I know is in store, if I keep holding hands with stuff from my past? A business friend told me: “Mistakes are but a rung on the ladder in the education of experience.” Ken was a professional baseball player and it was one of his coaches that threw this at him like a 90+ mph pitch and while I had to think about it a bit, I “get it.” If I cling to my past mistakes, or just hold good thoughts clenched like they can never happen again, they will keep my mind cluttered…unable to let new thoughts and experience happen. No, I must be out with the old to let the new in. Yes, I am working on "Letting Go to Let Happen. It’s okay for me to hold on to my memories but I prefer to draw on them as a reserve to let newcomers peek into my heart and soul, see where I have been while I continue in forward motion … growing and changing. I know I am a continuing work of “change” and want to continue to grow and change though most of my friends know I find the process difficult. But I will continue to work on my becoming more flexible so my mind and my heart is open for good times and good feelings. If I dwell on my mistakes and don’t open my heart for new experiences, love and kindness, as well as acknowledge that I’m going to make mistakes, I’m going to become “stuck.” Stuck in a world of just coasting along, going through life not feeling all there is to feel, or experiencing the joy that life has to offer. My son, Sam, gave me an award that hangs in my home. It’s an “I Love You Award to a Very Special Person that he wrote when he was 12 years old. While I enjoy my collection of Mediterranean prints by Howard Behrens, http://www.chooseart.net/howard_behrens.html Sam’s art and words of kindness help encourage me. I want to be the person my Mom, my family and friends have all helped me to be and that I know can be even better. I didn't arrive here alone...there was a lot of help along the way.
Perhaps it was His Plan to change our lives with the loss of Mom on Mother’s Day, 2004. It changed my life; it took me out of my comfort zone but it strengthened my character, as well as my faith. Losing Mom has changed me and it’s taught me valuable lessons about growing, about my journey and about new beginnings. My heart is open, I'm staying focused on the good in my life, and looking forward to the future.
God Bless you, Mom…Always Remembered.

5.03.2009

TOMMY IS PRODUCING...

I was a bit surprised with my newly planted tomato plants, only at the infancy stage. These are the Juliette variety, cherry tomatoes. Now, as my Gradad used to say: "If the bugs don't get 'em, and the rains don't swell 'em up, for 'em to split, and the heat doesn't steam 'em, and the varmants don't eat 'em, we'll have one nice crop this year." Here is the beginning of my 2009 Tomato Harvest! Really impressive, don't you think? Hey, hey, hey, they could be a real Hot Salsa when they grow up! That's if they go across town...if they stay with me...they'll be placed in a fresh salad nightly!
I spent all day Thursday in jury duty, did 13 Sudoko puzzles, made 1 new friend, was sent to a judge's courtroom at 2:30,the case settled and I was released at 3:00. Ugh! Except for the new friend, it seemed a bit of a wasted day...albeit willing to do my part of civic duty! As I was winding my way back to the freeway from the courthouse, which can be quite a challenge for me in downtown San Antonio since all the roads seems to wind and turn as the San Antonio river does (I think there is a story there...must ask my cousin, Norma), I wanted to share this stunning bouganvilla that caught my eye in the parking lot of an office. It looked like it was growing out of the driveway. I definitely think it tops my list of bouganvilla's.
A special I had on my April post from my dear friend, Carol Garner, in Angleton, Tx. "Beverly, gardening is near and dear to me, also. I wish I could do nothing but that all year long. I laughed when I read the part about buying sickly plants. etc. I love that challenge, too. First the 8 inches of rain and horrible wind last week here and now this weekend 30 mph winds again! It's like Mother Nature is wielding a baseball bat on my poor old vegetable garden! Paul and I repair, pet, do CPR, and pray over our garden lately and it DOES seem to help! LOL! I brushed back some soil to see what the potatoes had under there and I saw a beautiful red potato almost baseball size. They are almost ready. I think harvesting potatoes is about my favorite as it feels alot like a grown-up Easter egg hunt! " Just too cute to not share!
She's a sweetie and I love 'em all down in Angleton. See you in 6 weeks!
Ta Ta ~

4.03.2009

TIME FOR GARDEN GIRL

My yard is begging me to come outdoors...it is screaming attention and I really want to go out but I'm just having an energy-time crisis...lack of energy and lack of time. The boots Mom gave me for Christmas in 2004 are staring at me like a puppy whose been inside all day and wants to play. I think I will dust them off, throw on my hat (minus the pearls, of course) and mess up the mani-pedi. It's been a long winter, with little rain and now the wind is blowing pollen everywhere. It's a miracle that anything wants to bloom as harsh as the weather has been or should I say anti-specific. It really doesn't want to be cold, nor hot, definitely not wet, but yet, the flowers bloom. My first pink rose of 2009. Belinda's Dream http://aggie-horticulture.tamu.edu/cemap/rosebelinda/rosebelinda.htmlComing home last night the sky was blue but the winds were blowing so hard my roses were scattering their petals across the drive like it was snowing. But because I did my feeding, the buds are popping out all over in a beautiful array of pink. Light pink, hot pink...my favorite rose. Even my trees are budding with the wind whipping them. I've nested here at 11227 since 1997 and planted almost every tree. The builder did make a stab at a few (now long gone shrubs, but no trees, except for the grouping in the front). This beautiful tree was less than 12 inches tall when I brought it home and it took a whole week-end to dig through the rock to get it in the ground. I never thought it would stand so proud or grow and flourish as it has.Even now, 12 year later, when I dig in my flower beds, rocks are still buried beneath the soil...no that would be rock/sand and are to be dealt with. I've dug every flower bed, pulled every weed and mulched every bed. An orthopaedic surgeon here in SA,TX can attest to surgically repairing a really torn rotator cuff that tugged and pulled at 40 lb. bags of mulch (200 bags to be exact). When he asked my son, Sam "what does your Mom do that she tore this shoulder up so bad?" Sam's response: "Whatever she wants to but I think she was spreading mulch." There were so many bags that planting season...the year after repair surgery I couldn't tolerate the smell that permeated so many of our small nurseries and big box stores with their new shipments of mulch and peat moss. I would take another route into the store and there was no mulching 11227 that year. And doesn't everybody love the fresh smell of grass and mulch at the start of spring...I know I do. Now, I'm not saying I've done the mowing and edging at 11227 because that would take away from the kindly fellow that magically appears every Thursday between April 1 and October 1 since 1997. In all these years he's missed only one Thursday of making sure my lawn welcomes me home as manicured as this hot Texas sun will allow, given water restrictions from lack of rainfall. http://www.edwardsaquifer.net/ But, as a community, I think we make a big effort to preserve our Aquifer and I know I watch out for those "water cops." The dirt digging, weeding and pruning are my chores but once I get the energy going, I love to garden. I'm proud to say that my trees are all standing tall as though they are ready to march right through summer despite a tepid winter and little rainfall.
I hope you enjoy the blooms and blossoms I've seen this month and it inspires you to plant a little something.
Azaleas in League City, Tx.
A neighbor's climbing Bouganvilla...hot pink...one of my favorite's and it grows well in this hot spring and cool nights.
Everything is blooming now and we've had a bit of rain. Everything seems so new ...there is nothing quite as pleasant except maybe a walk in the evening hours or watching your adult "kiddo" mow his baseball field where you can hear the trees rustle, the birds chirping around and the bees harmonizing with life as they drift among the flowers. Of course, Coach is asking: "Can I mow over this, what about this?" That would be negative to the bluebonnets that blanket the field behind his outfield!
Salado, TX Bluebonnets
I think springtime is like a little taste of heaven with green grass from the rain, popping up everywhere, plants bursting open with their blooms...sometimes as a complete surprise. I had a beautiful friend, Dorothy Guynes, who always asked "Did you just buy that sick plant on sale to show you could make it well again?" No, I usually bought sick, half dead plants because they were a bargain but I did enjoy the challenge. These two crepe myrtles were 99 cents, on sale, half dead and I thought I was planting "Dwarf crepe myrtles" with the specific goal of NOT overpowering the yard or growing something "taller than 42 inches." You can share in my surprise...they are definitely not "dwarf" and they've been pruned over the years and bloom all summer, one a beautiful white and the other...you guessed it, hot pink...which can make for snowfall over the swimming pool sprinkled with petals of pink!
It's worth all the scooping of blooms when it's 105 degress on a hot San Antonio day and you can take a quick dip with intermittent gardening not to count enjoying a cool salad with the fruits of your labor...folks, meet Tommy the Tomato. I do admit to being in a bit of competition with a friend and we count blooms with every conversation. All in fun...seeing if the results of our hard work live up to expectations. With three tomato plants, I expect a full harvest but with my neighbor's tree trying to hang out over the fence, it's branches like some muscle man arms, it may impede my tomato's best efforts...just too much shade. Tommy may be moving to a new location in the near future!
Gardening has always been an important part of my life and with the weather as mild as it is in San Antonio, I could, given the time, garden year-round, though in the dog days of summer it's hard work to get things to grow. San Antonio has over 600 classroom gardens, many supervised by graduates of the local Master Gardener program. http://www.texasmastergardeners.com The 475+ members make this small city in southern Texas the home of the most active Master Gardener chapter in the United States and Canada. Hopefully, the city gardens have received a nice drink and a few showers are on the way this week because we all know:
I don't think I've ever appreciated rain as much as I do now that I live in San Antonio. It's not to say that I've gotten over my fear of bad thunderstorms and lightning and certainly miss my Mom to talk to me on the phone to pass the time while even hail drops like golf balls on a May day, but I think God is softly whispering to us as the rains caress our countryside with little droplets of life, clean and fresh. I believe if we listen very closely there's no doubt that He'll impart...the freshness of spring upon your soul, and a flower in your heart! I wish that for all my family and friends.
~Happy Gardening

Make a Wish for Everyone You Love

3.22.2009

GOING HOME

Home is where your memories are born...or maybe it's where your secrets live and are kept until you bring them up to the surface to reflect with happiness about some and sadness about others. All the same, your memories belong to you and no one can take them from you. For me, home is where (as the sign in my Art Room says) "Your Story Begins".
My Art Room is where many memories reside through my photos, my mother's rubber stamp collection and where I bring life to my memories through photos, scrapbooking, cardmaking and any thing I can find to keep hands busy, bring a smile through a gift, and keep my heart happy. Geographically, home is Texas City, Tx where I was born, grew up, and lived with my parents and my sisters and brother in Small House. It was brand new when my parents bought it ...I was about 13 and they were so proud of it. It was where I was scolded a little and praised a lot. My family contributed so much to my life and my memories, and I love keeping the memories alive through my stories and photos. My mother was a very young mother (17) when I was born and we were probably more like sisters than mother-daughter. I think we taught each other about motherhood and the memories I have with my sisters and brother, that I absorbed through every day adventures and challenges, were lessons well learned, later well used and became the foundation of my values when I became a mother. Of course, I realize it was my mother's memories as a young woman that led her to a different style of parenting with me...a little harder on me than I would have liked, but I was rewarded with a unique sense of self, a good, healthy dose of self-esteem (you think) a great deal of independence and the ability to love unconditionally. There was a lot of love in Small House and I know so well how difficult it must have been, especially with just one bathroom and 4 kiddos. Something that is unheard of now...one bathroom. If my boys think I am a "Mom story teller" they should only have heard half of her stories and memories.
My Mom (age 57 ),Me (age 40). She baked a birthday cake for me the day this photo was taken and actually topped it with 40 candles.
I came into this world telling my Mom "we've got places to go, things to do and people to see." She knew I wanted my independence early on and I always took a lot of pride in Small House, digging and planting, and the contribution I made as the oldest of four, which was mostly babysitting and housecleaning, which I do no more. Never. Someone else's job! So...I came by my bossiness and independence naturally and then it was home grown from there. Mom was usually up for whatever hobby or sport was interesting me at the time but I wanted my own place and my own space the day I graduated from High School. That I did...moving out of Small House with one bathroom. Boy, were there a couple of bathroom door bangings that only a sister and brother could get into fighting over a bathroom. I've always been a bathroom hog and a closet slob but the rest of any home I've lived in has screamed neatness or so I'm told. Seems to be a fear with most people (except my boys) when they come to my home...but organizing is one of my virtues that haunts me frequently. I sure hope it doesn't take away from the warmth but rather is just a memory of when I used to organize my spices. Not something I got from my mother but from her mother and my Dad. He taught me to keep the garage the cleanest because he said it was what we would see first. True enough, few people ever walk through my front door after the initial visit...from then on it's the backdoor coming into my garage... that still needs more organization!
Remembering the High School days in the '60's. It was the old Terrace Drive Inn in Texas City, on a December Friday night in 1967 where I met my boys' Dad, Terry, a blonde, blue-eyed college senior home for the week-end and playing the "big guy on campus role" cruising around in his fancy new car. I was a senior in high school and we hit it off right away. It only took two years for us to begin our journey together, our chapter of memories, with me always wanting a different house with different wallpaper. He was such a sport about every house needing the right garden, the right paint and the oh so perfect wallpaper. I learned fairly quickly that his very talented Dad, whom I adored, would do just about any odd job I wanted (well, he would do it for anybody - he was that kind of guy) and one of the most valuable was how to lay tile when I didn't like what the builder was going to put in. Having built 3 homes starting at the age of 19, you learn fairly quickly how to negotiate with the builder and get them to come around "your way." Funny thing about that home Terry and I built at age 19. We called it "Westbury Home" like it was a grand estate and to us it was but that was actually the name of the street. I did all the negotiations and we came out with a $150 house note...now can you even imagine? We were actually scared we weren't going to be able to afford that Westbury Home but I just kept us building after that one was finished and we took on 10 acres and Farm House. We built that one ourselves, with GrandPa's help, had our pond and ducks, geese and cats. Bad thing was that moving to the country found me allergic to everything we had but it didn't take but 2 years and hundreds of allergy shots later to get rid of those. I think I was taking the allergy shots longer than we lived in Farm House. On most home projects Grandpa would do it for me but I have many funny memories of Grandpa saying: "No, tell me you didn't get that fancy stuff this time." Of course, in the 1960's foil wallpaper was all the rage and since he had a hard time telling anybody "no" he would try to convince me that he couldn't do it! So I would research it "ad nauseum" only to find out that he knew how all along! In my mind, there wasn't anything that Grandpa couldn't fix or foil, including wallpapering and laying tile in the smallest of bathrooms. He helped build a greenhouse as a Christmas gift to me in 1974 in the backyard of Westbury Home and when I saw it he teasingly asked: "which wall do you want wallpapered?" No wallpaper in that plant-home, he had to install a heating system...that threw him a bit! I spent many days tending to my plants in that little potting shed built with care by Terry and Grandpa. Together they were a construction force to reckon with.
From early married days in the late 1960's through two marriages and I can't begin to count how many homes, I finally moved away from Texas City in 1995 after Sam began studies at Baylor. Through the years, I learned that home is where you are at the time, with your memories, and being with those you love. Single woman that I've been for a very long time, I've been known to tell a date "about the only baggage I carry is my suitcase of memories." The junky stuff I just leave in it's little compartment of my heart and hope I don't need to open it up...it's under lock and key, for the most part, and while some of it may have helped bring me to this point in my life, the sign reads "closed" and I don't choose to travel that path again. Since my my Mom passed away in 2004, I seldom go home to Texas City. People have moved and time has become precious and it's a 5 hour drive from San Antonio to Texas City. While many would ask why I don't fly back home, I like the freedom of driving, being able to stop along the way if something catches my eye and pull out my camera. This month I did just that...packed the car, clothes (couple pairs of shoes :-) and made sure my camera was good to go. Off to Texas City I went for a baby shower for sweet Tracie, daughter of my beloved Sallie, friend of both of my boys, a beautiful wife, wonderful schoolteacher (kiddos you have your hands full :-) and now about to be mother to little Jack David on April 26th.
The Baby Shower:
I stayed the night before with Sam, who now has his own beautiful home and was sport enough to drive me to Texas City on Saturday for the shower. Afterwards, we spent time wandering around Texas City doing drive-bys of our homes, our schools and took photos and chatted all the way about it's change. Samuel Joseph, my youngest.
Photos of his home - he has quite a green thumb but he and his neighbors, Susan, Sandy, Ulrech and Julie work hard to make their townhomes quite a showplace.
The shower brought together seasoned mommies, new mommies and mommies to be and it was good to see friends I hadn't seen in months and catch up with what's going on, listen to new chapters of their lives, and share the new chapter I eagerly await...Grammie To Be. Don't forget to see Little Baby Boy Monitor on blog sidelines. The monitor says he will begin to notice light...probably because it's baseball season. You think? Here is Sue who I've known since we were 10 and 11 with her niece, Kristen, Tracie's big sister, "Sissy" as she is called by many of us, Mommy to Sydney and Blake, beautiful wife, a wonderful school teacher and about to be aunt to little Jack. Visiting Texas City brought back a lot of memories and while most of them are good memories, it's really true (at least for me) "you can't go home.
A little about our drive-bys:
Always having a penchant for pet names of my homes, this house "Big House" because it was and in typical Beverly-style, we even made it bigger adding a game room overlooking the Bay with built in bunks, like a ship. A story soooooo funny, but scary, was the day that Lodie, our beloved housekeeper of 15 years, called and told me she had fallen through the attic behind the boys bunks, landed Doug's 1963 Mustang and was fearful she had dented it. Of course, I was more worried that she was hurt but she picked herself up, dusted herself off and went back to whatever she was doing. What was she doing behind the bunks (the attic over the garage). Surely I didn't have her dusting the insulation...you think? While I don't cook now, in fact the sign says "Kitchen Closed" on my bar, we had lots of large Rotary gatherings at Big House, Family Gatherings and the kids had a great time living in Big House. Well, not to sugar coat this Big House memory... there were some tumultous times (but remember those are locked way) there certainly were good and funny times and even some of the not so good memories are now fun to tell and inevitably bring about laughter. We bought Big House in 1987 and I don't think we ever laid down the hammer (well I think we did lay it down day of the d-i-v-o-r-c-e). The libary was a dark, fake wood paneling and 5 coats of Kiltz later, it was painted a beautiful white enamel, floor to ceiling, overlooking the bay. I wanted our beautiful book collection to fill every shelf that went floor to ceiling on two sides because you know the saying: "The Mind Knows What The Eyes See." At that time Big House was pretty enough to be on the Texas City Christmas Tour of Homes. Carol and I have memories of hanging the Christmas greenery that week-end...fresh sprigs of greenery on the staircase that she rigged with fishing line so it was invisible. I finally had to turn the heater off to keep it from popping loose because of the dry air. Big House had beveled glass doors that I designed with interconnecting hearts and were hand made by my boss' brother in Pearland. At least the doors are still in place and the hearts still interconnected years later.
BIG HOUSE:
and 10 years, a lot of memories left at Big House, and a divorce later, the boys and I moved into "Little House" that now appears to be decorated with a brand new mailbox!
I loved both houses just the same, each with their own personality and memories...skateboarding into the swimming pool while I wasn't watching (bad Stevo), kayaking in the Bay (Doug's idea but Sam was a good sport), dune buggy riding, 4-wheeling on the lot next door of Big House, jogging routes, ski trips and many, many baseball games and school activities combined with a lot of holidays, friends and family.
Little House was special to me as a single Mom. It was the first house I bought on my own without the help of another person, other than those who were along the path and helped me to become an independent woman. Sam decorated Little House's yard for Christmas one year when he was about 12. I came home, took one look and went into a "Tizzy Lizzy moment" as my Mama Rush would say, about the plastic statues in the front yard. Many years later, cleaning out my Mother's attic, I decided to give Sam the plastic statues for his front yard. Oddly enough...he said "absolutely not!" The circle continues round and round. The good thing about memories is that they come in and out of your life and you never know what song or what moment is going to take you back in time. But...back to the present and life as it is now. Home is now San Antonio, the second-largest city in the State of Texas and the seventh largest city in the United States. I lived here the summer the temperature reached an all-time record high of 111 degrees F on 9.5.2000 but wasn't born just yet when it dipped to a record low of 0 degrees F on 1.31.1949. Thank goodness... most of you know I'm cold in almost any air conditioned room. Hey, I'm from Galveston County, a real sun baby, and usually donning a sweater!
When I go back to Texas City now after being in San Antonio for 14 years, it seems like a small community while I always thought I was growing up in a very large place. But compared to when I was growing up and then raising my sons, Texas City has thrived, prospered and survived a lot. There's a new school being built (looks like an elementary school), the hospital is now a retirement home and dear old Texas City High School, where not only I went to high school, my boys' Dad went to high school and our boys went to high school has a new sign at the entrance of the football stadium, a very large new statue of our Mascot and a fresh coat of paint.
Texas City High School appears much smaller due to photographer download error!
Visiting again was like I was living there yesterday but it no longer looks the same. The Texas City Dike is not a recreation area for the locals right now. This dusty skinny road jutted out into the bay with rocks on both sides where your neighbor could be spotted on a Sunday afternoon throwing a line catching who knows what and just "kicking back with a cool one. The Texas City Dike has been quoted in history books as "The World's Longest Fishing Pier", originally built in 1914 to protect the harbor. In the early 1920's, it was extended five miles into the bay but now, post Hurricane Ike, the sign says: "Closed Until Further Notice." Hurricane Ike was a sad occasion for the Texas City Dike but the most tragic moment in Texas City's history occurred on April 16, 1947, when the freighter Grand Camp exploded in the harbor, igniting other fires and explosions along the waterfront and industrial district. Over 500 lives were lost and millions of dollars in damage done in what has been called one of the worst man-made disaster in U.S. history. The anchor of the freighter Grand Camp, which landed hundreds of feet away from the bay, now graces a city park at the entrance to what was the Texas City Dike, resting on a concrete platform outline of the State of Texas, with a star indicating the location of Texas City.
The historical marker along side the Anchor:
Texas City now has a Starbucks...wow, what progress. I grew up having cherry cokes and milkshakes at a little place called Burton's Malt Shop where I could ride my horse up to the door and Danny, the owner, would bring me a cherry coke. Danny later gave me a job (cooking no doubt, maybe that's why I don't like to cook) and it turned into my very first job at age 14 for about $1.00 an hour! As a young Mom, I could go into the corner grocery store for a Diet Coke and a loaf of bread and and "make a new friend" (as Sam would say), but now, I am anonymous to most. My heart, however, still holds the memories. On our drive-by, Sam and I did make a stop at the neighborhood M & M's grocery store by Little House for a soda and while the fellow behind the counter still said the same thing: "How's it going for you today?" he didn't remember my face. When Sam went in there as a kid, he used to ask: "How's business?" referring to Sam's Club. Whatever it took to b
ring a smile to your face...the guy has it down right.
Texas City holds a lot of history that few know about. I was visiting with friends recently about the history of Texas City and my girlfriend, Carol, who was here for a visit a few weeks ago and I were patching together it's history, as we knew it, grew up, and experienced. It's survived two major depressions, at least five major storms: 1900, 1915, 1943, 1961 and Hurricane Ike, just last year. The miracle of Texas City is that it continues to survive, thrive and prosper staring at the face of adversity, especially every Hurricane Season. Despite the hurricanes and Texas City Explosion (as it is known state-wide, if not nation-wide), is that this community that I called home for 45 years has met the challenges and profited through growth and development. I sure hope the Dike reopens in years to come for all the memories it holds for many a starry, starry night. There weren't a lot of places to go on a date, especially if you were absolutely prohibited from driving to Galveston, but I have so many good memories of dates tricking me out to the end of the Texas City Dike telling me "we're going to watch for submarines." Yeow, right. Then, of course, I tricked dates (one in particular) into letting my horse out of his stall. I stalled him at feed time... on purpose... knowing I had a date. Not sure what I would have done if the date had been broken. I think Coco My Jo, as I affectionaly called him, would have stayed penned up all night and I would have had to figure out how to get to the barn before school. Fortunately, I don't remember a date ever cancelling. Lots of good, wholesome memories at that barn. Some really fun times with an older fellow (at least all of two years older than me) named Steve, whose Dad owned the land. We let his pen of capons drink root beer and did everything possible to keep my lamb's teeth in (for show at the Galveston County Fair and Rodeo). He would ride me on his bike from home to the barn in the rain and the cold and the sleet and the snow...that was until he got his driver's license. Good memories except for the really bad tumble I took on the handlebars of his bicycle. I think my knee is still scarred and don't know that I've ever been back on a bike...I know I stay off the handlebars!
Going back to Texas City and returning to my home in San Antonio, where I have lived in one house longer than any other place in my life is a renewal, each and every time. When I drive in, I am always at peace to be in my garage, in my place and surrounded by my "stuff." It is my shelter from the storm and while I have a penchant for pet names, I have not named this house. It is my home and every flowery room, with it's yellow walls (except for the downstairs bath wallpaper that took 7 coats of paint- candy apple red) are a reflection of the people I love and the stuff that has traveled along with me and my memories. I have gone over and over in my mind whether I need to stay in the house and even my son, Sam, has said: "Mom, home is wherever you are. The rest is just stuff." Yes, that is very true but it's my stuff. It's my photos, and the stuff that comforts me and provides the sense of nesting that I need. It's that place where I can clear away any clutter I've accumulated in my mind (not to count any closets) and begin anew. I can put away any issue that might have resurfaced going home and divest myself of any unnecessary chatter in my mind that might creep up from "going back."
Traveling that journey back to Texas City is like looking into the rear view mirror. Growing up where I did, how I grew up and how I moved on has helped define my identity and I wouldn't trade the twists and turns, or the obstacles along the way, for anything. Without those twists and turns I wouldn't have the happiness and peacefulness that I now enjoy. It's a good thing, as Martha would say, to know that I will just keep moving along in life, with memories that I have stored away, and continue to try (and sometimes I have to try hard) to not become rigid with fear or cling to the past. It's a real waste of energy to keep clinging to what once was. I choose to face the future with the happiness I know is in store, not only for me but for the ones I love, and my experiences have taught me I can face any dark moments of life, that I don't have to run if I use good judgment (and believe me I've done my running in the past) but I don't want to run any more...just make smart decisions, move forward and and eagerly await all the good things that I know are little way down my path. For my past and my future, for the people in my past and in my present, I am grateful From My Heart.
A little piece of magic just may come true if you make a wish today!
~Babs